How do I find my purpose in life? Want me to be honest? I have no idea where I am headed. Life is a f*cking circus and most days I feel like the clown in the middle juggling everything – including other peoples expectations. Between my day job, family responsibilities and my inner voice screaming “prioritize your self and follow your dreams” I feel pulled in so many directions. At this point I don’t even know where I will go with this blog. Am I ready to snap? Maybe. But before that happens I will at least TRY to find my purpose.
Below are a list of things I will try to get back on track.
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1. Own the Chaos but Cut the Deadweight
I would love to be able to just go in the direction of “I’ll just let go of what I don’t need to deal with” but we all know that’s not how life works. My family depends on me, and well…bills don’t pay themselves.
But there is a difference between the things I must do, and the things that I do out of guilt, obligation or….because its a habit? I need to set boundaries. If someone expects something that doesn’t align with my future vision or values? It’s time to kindly (or not so kindly?) tell them to f*ck off.
2. Determine How to Set My True Priorities Over the BS “should do’s”
There are many things that are important to me – Family, Job, Cleaning up my Shithole of a house, Blog, Creativity, Travel, etc. How do I determine what to prioritize? It’s time to remove the noise of the “shoulds” and concentrate on my priorities, Just because other people expect me to do something doesn’t mean I have to. I’m starting to think about what genuinely makes me feel alive. Writing? Photography? Time in Nature? As I ponder this, I’m wondering if in the future it may be something completely different? Pretty sure this is the step that will help me find my purpose.
3. Do I Need to Reframe My Blog? Or my Approach?
My blog is currently about the things I love. Travel, photography, and life. But I’m having trouble remaining consistent. Some content isn’t aligned with my true authentic self, and what I need right now.
While I considered changing my blogs topics, that wouldn’t work because they are some of my favorite things and why the hell would I give up on that? Instead, I’m thinking about digging deeper into the “why” behind my topics. Travel, photography and life can remain the core – but maybe I reframe it as a space to explore my journey, purpose and balancing dreams with reality. Will that make writing feel more f’n fulfilling? Only one way to find out.
4. Allow Myself to be Selfish
Who is going to prioritize my dreams if I don’t? If I want to make progress toward a life I love, then I need to stop apologizing for wanting things. My needs shouldn’t come last. If people expect more than I can give, that’s their problem not mine. If they can’t adjust then maybe they weren’t meant to be a part of my next phase.
5. Stay Motivated Without Making Myself Crazy
Motivation doesn’t just happen, it’s about commitment. But how do I commit to anything when I’m already going off the rails?
Maybe I can set smaller more realistic goals? My initial intention was to do 2 blog posts a week – one for One Tip at a Time and one for either Travel or Life stuff. And then multiple social media posts. Do I need to set smaller more realistic goals? One blog post a week?
How do I decide what to write? Maybe I can use my stress, obstacles and things that piss me off as blog fuel? Or when I feel overwhelmed maybe that is my cue to grab my camera and capture whatever is around me – whether its chaos, peace or…whatever.
I think this step may be the hardest one for me. As things go up and down, and I deal with random life hiccups its easy to get distracted. Once I decide what my more “realistic” goals are, hopefully that will keep me motivated.
Last But Not Least? Moving Forward
I don’t know what my ultimate goals look like right now, but that’s ok. It’s a journey and I’m taking the steps to get on the right path and find my purpose. I’m allowing myself to shift, grow and discover my true self. Here is to cutting the crap that doesn’t align with me, setting boundaries, and making my blog a place to reflect my voice and my truth. If that offends someone then….they probably weren’t meant to be here reading my stuff anyway.
If you are still here for the ride – you may want to buckle up….
Are any of my followers in the same place as me? How are you prioritizing? How do you plan to move forward? What are your goals? Let me know in the comments.
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I am a spirited blogger from Chelsea, MI who thrives on adventure, creativity and exploring the world through the lens of my camera (even if it’s my phone). When I’m not chasing sunsets and amazing views, I spend time with my heart dog Maizie. If travel, creativity and a dash of blunt honesty (with the occasional F-bomb) sparks your curiousity, you are in the right place.