Every Day is Mothers Day

Sunday, May 12, 2013 is Mothers Day.  At least “officially”.

But whether I’m sitting at the ice rink with my skaters, or cheering at a soccer/football/basketball game, or sitting down at my desk to pay bills and finding little notes that say “I love you Mom”, every day is Mothers Day for me.

In doing for my children, I reflect on the things that my mother did for me, and the things she now does for them.  Indeed, I sometimes see in my own actions, those of my mother.  Most often good, but occasionally with the thought, “oh crap, I sound just like my mother“.  My choices in life may be different and we may not always agree, but my mother made me who I am and for that I am thankful.

There are many other mothers in my life.  My mother in law raised the man who became my husband.  With her guidance he has grown to be the kind of father we all wish for our children to have.  She embraced me with all of my baggage and has surrounded my family with love.

I would guess that for my mom and mother in law, every day is Mothers Day too.

It takes a village of mothers to raise our children.  That village is teaming with grandmothers, sisters, in laws, and our mom friends that share the joys and triumphs as well as the “OMG I can’t believe what happened” stories that remind us we are not alone.

For these moms I know, every day is Mothers day.

While the world sends cards and flowers to commemorate this one special day for moms, I want to add a hearty THANK YOU to every mom out there that touches my life every day.  My mom and my mother in law (for everything, always), my grandmothers (love you), my sisters in law (you rock!), the mothers of my children’s friends that help out with rides and play dates and fun (I appreciate you!), my friends who are also mothers (thank you for laughing and crying with me!), and my photog friends (I treasure the pics of me with my kids!) – I could not successfully walk this journey without any of you.

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!
 
Images below by Judi Morrissey Photography www.judipix.com

 

Giving Gifts that are not Things

My girls each have a birthday coming up in May. As I look around my very cluttered home, I cringe at the thought of them receiving more THINGS. Things that they play with for 10 minutes and forget, things that end up perpetually on the floor – and the worst, big things that are comprised of many little pieces that ultimately end up separated to the far corners of our home never to be seen together again.

If I thought these things were treasured, or helpful in some way I don’t think it would bother me so much, but that is rarely the case. More often the excitement is fleeting, and the mess these gifts make is permanent (at least until we shovel the living room).
As my mind traveled down this path, it occurred to me that what my children talk about for years on end, and what they really treasure have always been EXPERIENCES. Places we’ve gone, amazing things we have seen, and things our family has done TOGETHER. We have a special book case full of photo books made with the images of our vacations, our holidays, and the milestones of my children. Those books are the one thing that the kids never tire of. Oh how I love when they reach for a special book and say “remember this?” or “this was the best vacation ever”. Coloring Easter Eggs, our Disney Cruise, golfing with Daddy – these experiences are far more special than any THING I could ever give them.

What better gift to offer them for their birthdays, than a memory? (and maybe another photo book as a forever reminder of that memory!)

So this year we are thinking of doing things a little different. This year in addition to the cake and ice cream but instead of the “things”, I may take a day off work so we can make a memory.

Some current ideas:
1. Detroit Zoo (Detroit, MI)
2. Cedar Point (Sandusky, OH)
3. Mackinac Island, MI – this is my favorite place in Michigan!!
4. Air Zoo (Portage, MI) – my husband might like this one more than the kids 🙂

What about you?  Where are the places that your family has had the most fun making memories?  What do you think would make a memorable “non-thing” gift?

Get in the Picture!

I am fanatic about photography.  After the word ‘no’ my children probably first said “no more pictures”.  Or at least they thought it.  There aren’t many fans of my paparazzi ways.  I can’t tell you how many photographs I have of the backs of heads as family would turn away from my camera, or hands put up to ward off the lens.

The drawbacks of my obsession with photography (other than those my family would list)?  I have an extremely difficult time publishing/printing imperfect images, even if they perfectly illustrate meaningful times of my life.  And while I love being behind the camera, I do not like being on the other side…I know that I am not alone, I can’t think of many people (with the exception of models) over the age of 6 that LIKE having their photo taken.

During the last several years, my family has suffered some very painful losses.  As we sorted through images, there were realizations that in some cases we had no record of entire YEARS, if not decades.  I also realized that if I didn’t get in front of the camera at least some of the time (and keep those “imperfect” images), my children would have nothing to remember me by – except pictures of them with everyone but me.

I will not let that happen to my loved ones, and neither should you.  Four tips to stay on track:

1. Remember to photograph everyone in your life, including yourself.  Do it frequently.  The images do not always have to be professional – simply having them is a blessing.  Keep the camera near, and document. In addition to milestones (the first day of school, graduation, etc) be sure to snap the every day moments – bath time and bedtime, reading a book in the corner, haircuts, and family game night.  Hand your camera to the “non-photographer” in the family and ask them to make sure you get in a few images!!  Need pics of you and your spouse?  Hand the camera to the kids.  Turns out the every day details are my favorite photos…those, and the snaps of me with my children.  And if they are blurry?  All the better to hide the wrinkles my dear.

2. Get your images PRINTED.  Or make a book.  Or anything more concrete than a handful of pixels on your Facebook account.  My kids are particularly fond of Shutterfly books.  We make a few a year, to document our vacations, or a holiday, or a sport season, or graduation.  I like them better than loose prints, as they are easy to display and share.  My heart smiles every time I see my kids take one of those books off the shelf and say “ooohhh, remember this?”  If books aren’t your thing, check out Imagine Your Photos where there are a whole bunch of cool things that can be made with your pics – everything from canisters, to blankets, to clothing and wall displays.  Really a very cool site.

3. For especially momentous occasions, hire a professional.  Take pics of every day life yourself, but do not skimp for weddings, newborns, senior year, etc.  Hiring a professional will allow you to immerse yourself in a moment or event without worrying about documenting.  And at least every couple of years hire a pro to produce artistic, timeless and technically sound images for your family that will be treasured for generations.  If your pro delivers digital images, be sure to get them PRINTED. (see number 2)

4. Don’t get too wrapped up in documenting.  A particularly difficult tip for me, this may sound like a contradiction, but it really isn’t.  While following tips 1-3, don’t forget to BE IN THE MOMENT.  Take one or two snaps to remember the day, then put the camera down and have fun.

Live fully, love deeply, laugh often….and please, get in the pictures!

A huge thank you to all of the photographers (too many to name!) that have blessed my family with images and me with support, as well as family, friends and random strangers on vacation that have taken pics of us!  
A special shout out to the following very talented photographers, whose images appear in this post (mixed with mine).  
Judi Morrissey – Judi Morrissey Photography (family pics at the lake)
Violeta Harrington – Violeta Harrington Photography (pics of me with Robby on the beach)
Trula Muir – Time in a Frame (below pic of me wearing orange dress and lifting Robby)
Burrill Strong – Burrill Strong Photography (image of me on the Football field with Dom)
Brigitte Hoag – Brigitte Hoag Photography  (images of me with Alex and Robby)



Build a Better Castle

In 2010 as we were leaving the beach, Robby looked wistfully back at his sand creation.  Instead of being sad, my wise little guy said to me, “I will build a better castle tomorrow”.

I am choosing to follow his lead.  Regardless of what I may be sad to give up today, tomorrow is always an opportunity to build it BETTER.

My current castle is constructed of images.  I am building it better by concentrating more on photographing things I love, and less of what I don’t.  I am working diligently on monetizing my passion through more than portraits.  I am exploring other complimentary creative pursuits (like this blog).  And I am NOT paying attention to what has been left behind (or mistakes that I have made), but instead what I can do moving forward.

How about you?  What is your castle made of, and how will you build it better tomorrow?